Self-Love Resolution: Snatching What You Deserve!

Happy New Year Snatchers!

Hi Snatchers! It has been quite some time since my last blog post and that is all on me. I have all these ideas to provide, and then setbacks occur. I acknowledge I need ways to overcome those setbacks, though sometimes we just have to go through the funk. You all know about that! Though if you don’t definitely check out that blog post after this one! 😊

We are going to talk about the infamous new year resolutions that we all create during this time of year. Many times we think of weight loss, reading more books, making more money etc. There is nothing wrong with these goals or any other type of goal. We just need to ensure we are committed to ourselves. I want to help you all, along with what I discovered for myself when it comes to snatching the life we deserve or snatching our goals for the new year.

Now I will also add there is nothing wrong with wanting to be better and do better. The fact that you were able to acknowledge some of your shortcomings says a lot about your self-awareness. We are all about self-awareness here my dear. When you are mindful of yourself you are already taking a major step! Let me break it down for you a bit more. The webster definition of self-awareness is awareness of one’s own personality or individuality. The Oxford dictionary states knowledge and understanding of your own character. Girl, this means knowing yourself! So, before we can phantom about snatching the life we deserve, we need to know who we are. It will be a difficult journey chasing things you want when you are not sure of your wants and needs.

How do I learn about myself?

Great question! Self-awareness is also about focusing on yourself. This means focusing on your actions, thoughts, and emotions. I suggest dating yourself. Girl what? Girl Yes! Date yourself! Getting to know yourself is no different than getting to know your friends, a date, your colleagues, etc. When you go on a date you ask questions, so ask yourself some questions. What do you like? What are your dislikes? What are your values? What are your beliefs? What is your favorite place to vacation and why? Start asking yourself questions and falling in love with that beautiful person.

Also, keep in mind you are going to be dating yourself for the rest of your life. We are forever changing; our mindset grows from our life experiences. Some aspects of your life that were important, no longer hold value now. Think about it this way, when you go through your clothes you take out items that no longer bring you joy, no longer fit, no longer align with your current style, etc. This is the same thing with all aspects of yourself! I highly suggest taking some time out to write your answers down, you will be able to look back and reflect on the person you are.

What do I do next after getting to know myself?

So you are going out on dates with yourself, making yourself laugh, and enjoying your company more than your beau’s lol It’s all good. You now know your worth and believe you are ready to snatch the life you deserve. Then you need to make an action plan. Shay what? Are we going to war? Hell yeah, a war to fight for what you deserve! You have to stay committed to yourself during this process. Remember if you don’t write it down then it will forever stay as a want, dream, or thought. To make it a reality you have to manifest. Make sure your mindset is right though. That was the point of dating yourself so that you understood your mindset.

Things do not always happen overnight and the life you deserve will take a little faith, hope, and confidence (Mana O’lana), So how can we start writing out this action plan?

1. My love, obtain a planner! Seriously obtain a planner whether you are a monthly or weekly type of person. Planners are a great way for us to write our intentions out. It is one thing for us to have a thought, but a thought does not do much without a plan. Planners now come in various forms to fit your needs. They have physical planners and digital planners now. So, whether you are a person always on their tablet/phone or you love to carry your goals in your hands, a planner is going to do wonders for you. For example, I keep a planner on me. I have a therapist planner for my sessions, with my clients. It also keeps me on track with my intentions for the session, my goals, my observations during the session, and my takeaways to do better in the next. If you are unable to purchase you’re own planner fear not girl I got one you can download for the month, you can print it out and write your goals here 🙂 –> Free Download Self Care Plan
2. Create your short-term goals that will lead to your long-term goals. Yes, you may have a plan that you want to be wealthy. You may want to start owning luxurious items. You may want to be home more with your children or maybe you want to travel the world. In order to reach any of these goals, you need some short-term goals. Short-term goals keep you motivated and help you feel accomplished, For instance, if your goal is to have $10,000 saved by X amount of months that can seem daunting when you are not seeing your account grow as fast as you want. Though, when you set a plan to reach possibly 500 by month 2 or 1,000 by month 5 it breaks your long-term goal down so that when you reach these milestones you will continue to be excited. The same thing goes for self-love. You have to know what you want, it can’t just be “I want to love myself more”. You need to know what would loving yourself possibly look like? How would you know you have reached that goal? What would loving yourself do for you? Also, what would you be doing differently than what you are doing now? When you ask yourself some of these questions you will be able to break these up into smaller goals (you see how this relates back to dating yourself?)
3. You have to start Snatchers. My love, I know it is scary. All the what-ifs are scary because you may fail. I get that but failing is okay because we learn how to be better. Failure just means there is an alternative to our goal. Honestly, you can’t really fail at loving yourself. So what, you fall off the fitness wheel, ate a little bit too much, maybe you spent a little past your budget for the weekend, maybe you did not make it to your monthly spa date. This is all okay it does not negate all the greatness you have done for yourself. Honestly ask yourself what is the worst thing that can happen? If you have already experienced your worst, then you are at a place where you can honestly only go up from there. If you have not experienced the worst, this is the time to create an action plan to combat it. So if the worst happens you are prepared to face it head-on and move forward. Just start, go out there and do. Do not be consumed with thoughts of failure. Self-love will not happen overnight, the life you deserve will not appear if you do not start doing your action plan.

Honestly, in order to snatch the life you deserve, you need to act as if you already have that life. Be that confident woman, love her, hold her tight, dress her in clothes that make her feel good, take her places where she shines bright, do things that make her laugh, and do new things that she had once dreamed of. You just have to be willing to take a chance on yourself. Trust me it is so uncomfortable, and it is scary but it is worthwhile! I am now in the process of doing this for myself, coming to terms with things that didn’t work, and confronting myself when I didn’t give the right amount of effort. This process requires full transparency, if you can’t be honest with yourself, you will only hinder your journey. So claim those intentions, create that action plan, and take a chance. You will obtain the life you deserve!

You are everything & more!

You are courageous & beautiful!

You are enough!

You are a Queen! A Queen that snatches her goals and anything she wants!

You put your mind to it and you always achieve it!

Love Shay ‘Snatcher’ Moore