Hi Snatchers!
It has been long overdue since our last tip. Last time we discussed Snatching What You Deserve. We created our self-love resolution and planned out how we were going to take over. Though, if you did not get a chance to read how to get started you are in for a treat! Click the link above and then come back here and join us! Back to our current topic!
Unfortunately, and I apologize, I never talked about the obstacles in life and how to get back on track when life is lifing on us. I did not tell you how to cope with the feeling of being defeated. I realized this as I was knee-deep in the waves of a defeated mindset. First, know it is not uncommon to feel defeated from time to time. Whether you’ve experienced a setback in your personal or professional life, feeling defeated can be overwhelming and disheartening. Take a pause on the word disheartening. The disheartening feeling for me feels like a pit in my stomach with negative thoughts such as “I’m not worth the effort”. This feeling hurts, but I want to remind you all, just like I reminded myself (and my clients) feelings are just feelings, you do not have to act on them or do anything but hold space for them and let them leave. It is important for you, and me, to remember that setbacks are a natural part of our self-discovery journey, and there are things you can do to bounce back and regain your confidence. Here are some tips for what to do when you feel defeated:
1: Honor and hold space for your feelings. We have to acknowledge and accept our feelings. It’s normal to feel sad, frustrated, lonely, irritable, or disappointed when things don’t go as planned. Contrary to what you think, our feelings help us heal the feeling of defeat. Instead of suppressing your feelings, allow yourself to feel them and acknowledge that it’s okay to not be okay. Our feelings are like waves, they come and go, and when they leave you find that you are still standing.
2: Give yourself some TLC. Sometimes, taking time for ourselves allows us to obtain a new perspective of our current mindset. Whether you travel to a new destination, put on your favorite show from your childhood, or take a walk on your favorite trail remember that we all need to rest in order to recharge and come back. Whether it’s a short walk outside or a longer vacation, taking time to rest and rejuvenate can help you come back stronger.
3: Take a look in the mirror. After giving yourself some Tender Love & Care, sit and reflect. Let’s take this time to be honest with ourselves and identify our strengths. We are able to rise above difficulties, when we feel defeat, we end up forgetting our greatness. Through defeat, we can evaluate where we can grow and improve, sometimes we have to fail in order to succeed in the long run. Use what you learn from this place of hurt and make it your strength.
“While one may encounter many defeats, one must not be defeated.”
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4: Connect with your circle. Snatchers, if there is anything that I have learned from my journey is that you don’t have to do it alone. Never be afraid to ask for help. During my times of self-defeat, I reach out to my family, my besties, my boyfriend, and the women-led communities I’m a part of. Reach out for support from friends, family, or a any communities you are a part of. Sometimes, talking to someone can help you gain a fresh perspective and provide encouragement.
5: Time to get to work! Beautiful, you have taken all the steps to find yourself again and to push forward. We were strong enough to cry it out, we were strong enough to engage in self-care, we were strong enough to reflect, and we were strong enough to rely on our community to uplift. Now, create short-term or small achievable goals that align with your vision, values, and priorities. Don’t forget to celebrate your wins along the way!
Remember beautiful, that setbacks and failures are a natural part of life, and they provide opportunities for growth and learning. By acknowledging your feelings, taking a break, reflecting on the situation, reaching out for support, taking action, and practicing self-care, you can regain your confidence and move forward with resilience and strength. Remember snatchers snatch the self-love you deserve <3
So beautiful tell me what gems did you receive from today’s entry? Comment below. I would love to speak with you all 🙂
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